Don’t Take it personally – are you being manipulated?


When someone says to us, “Don’t take it personally,” that person gets our attention! Try as hard as we may, we usually take it personally, very personally. We take a lot of things personally, like – a driver tailgating or cutting us off, someone contradicting us, someone ignoring us or leaving us out, and probably one of our most difficult is when someone ridicules or makes fun of us. It can hurt. We can get insulted, resentful and mad! Were we manipulated?

Emotional energy is contagious and it can get our attention and hook our energy, our aura. We have been manipulated, perhaps not consciously, but nevertheless, manipulated. 

Our bioenergy or auric fields pulsate to our individual character and traits. But, when we manipulate each other emotionally we are also unconsciously manipulating each other’s fields through harmonic induction. We can push bioenergy streamers to someone that are like hooks. 

We may not see this energy, but we can feel it. We may feel like we’ve been hit in the solar plexus or more subtly, we feel like a victim. That’s simplifying, but they are real possibilities. 

Plus, we usually send the same energy back because we harbor egotistic traits that are based in fear.  The interaction may end even in an argument. The Law of Attraction at work. Or, we may close down and go on automatic pilot. The Law of Polarity at work.

Do we do it?

We have been conditioned to take things personally. When someone says don’t take it personally is actually good advice, but the ego can take over. We may even believe it is right to be insulted, hurt or angry because of self-righteousness.  

Why do we do it?

We have also been conditioned to manipulate others to get their attention!  It’s something we do. We like to be liked, to be popular. The core of the manipulations is that we want to be loved. 

Or, we use others to release our own negativity! That’s a very subtle one because both parties are not usually conscious of it. We are unconscious of experiencing fear and pride. We doubt our own authentic powers of strength, wisdom, sincerity and most of all – innate love. We are not aware of our core essence, much less other people’s. 

Another way

When we realize that we are taking things personally here are some simple steps you can take:

  1. Take a deep breath and more if you need it to get some oxygen to the brain and pause your thinking
  2. Be mindful and center yourself in your body and the present moment.
  3. Mentally deny that the incident has any power over you. This is mentally negating it. And, the truth opens us to vaster realms of mental consciousness. 
  4. Realize your connection to Universal Life Energy and center that energy in your heart chakra, feeling it as strength, wisdom, truth and love. And let the energy radiate out, expressing impersonal and unconditional love. When we center our consciousness and emotions in love then we are strong. We radiate a higher frequency in our aura, and that is a protection of sorts.
  5. Permit the illusion of possible manipulation to dissolve.
  6. Allow yourself to see the good in yourself and others, and be grateful!  

radiant heart 10

For more information consider: Emotional Negative Contagion and Protecting Yourself

and the series: Releasing False Beliefs About Yourself

In the hope You find Love close at hand, Portia SLB

“Universal Energy is an aspect of the Eternal.”

Eugene Fersen, Aphorisms of The Lightbearer, page 149.

Consider leaving your experiences or insights. Remember your Inner Self does not hesitate!

About Science of Being

Science of Being is the science of your being and reveals the means and methods to manifest success in the physical world and contact the source of All Power. It is a harmonious blending of Wisdom and science that support and explain each other. And addresses the Big Questions like ‘Is there a God?’ and ‘How can I contact God?’ It is also practical in very realistic ways by helping you answer: ‘Why do I experience problems? How can I achieve happiness in my life now?’ ‘Who am I?’ and ‘What is my purpose?’
This entry was posted in Mindfulness, Power of Emotion and tagged , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , . Bookmark the permalink.

2 Responses to Don’t Take it personally – are you being manipulated?

  1. Thank You dear! So, taking it personally can be a good thing too! Love You, Portia

  2. Pat N says:

    I am taking it personally.  Love this!

Leave a Comment, Question, or Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in: Logo

You are commenting using your account. Log Out /  Change )

Google photo

You are commenting using your Google account. Log Out /  Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out /  Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out /  Change )

Connecting to %s