Every spring I would enjoyed a rose bush I had planted. It would grow more beautiful every day and I was so proud of how beautiful it was. But one spring the rosebush gradually begin to yellow and eventually died. I didn’t blame the rosebush. I tried to figure out what went wrong.
Relationships thrive on sincere affection. Like a rosebush relationships grow more beautiful and rewarding with the proper conditions. But if we place blame on someone for problems it causes problems to get worst.
The watcher within
When things go wrong at my house I pause and come to the moment and sincerely ask myself: Am I taking things personally? And am I feeling loving or resentful? I must admit so many times the ego overpowers my emotions and I get angry and I go for revenge and place blame. It causes more trouble.
Our heart center
We live in a conditioned egotistic mindset of duality, right or wrong, yes or no, so it appears to the ego that we have two choices: love or fear. Yet, when we truly come to the moment and you become calm you may realize that the roots of love are deep.
The subconscious ego would rather point a finger at someone and be right than take responsibility for itself. It’s self-righteous that way because it takes everything very personally. And, the ego gets angry because of fear, causing pains and troubles of the heart.
When things flair up in a relationship within it is a great spiritual opportunity to know your True Self. If you experience troubles consider being totally in the moment. Without blame and prejudices of the past. Just be in the moment and aware of your motivation. Know your purpose. Know the tenderness your own heart. It can give you strength.
Our heart is our Seat of Love. It is also our Center of Attraction since attraction is a quality of love. So when we place blame in self-righteousness then that energy attracts similar energies and accumulates in the lower frequencies of the heart chakra. Our chest hurts or we can feel broken hearted. And the relationship is in more trouble.
Take these steps
Consider the rosebush when you are experiencing troubles. Place no blame, rather try to figure out how to bring harmony and love to the forefront within yourself.
Pause. Come to the moment by bringing your awareness within your body. Take several deep breathes. This helps you clear the emotional charges and take in the harmony of Universal Life Energy.
Relax and release. If you still feel negative charges in your heart chakra or solar plexus visualize releasing them.
While considering how beautiful a rose is, open to the beauty of the moment, your life and the beauty of the relationship. And ask yourself what is your motivation. There in that moment you may find the healing strength of love.
In the hope You find Love close at hand, PortiaSLB
“Those who have reached a higher development of mind have the great advantage of feeling the freedom of lifting their Minds into higher regions.”
Eugene Fersen, Pearls of Wisdom, Volume I, page 337.
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