Consider that there is no such thing as constructive criticism, even of ourselves. Have you considered that when we are self criticizing we are judging and afraid that we are not good enough to fit in or be loved? And often we feel if we self criticize it is justified because others are going to criticize us so why not jump the gun?
We all do it; we all criticize, yet we are in a process of realizing that none of us are perfect and we all have our habits ….. we all have been programmed to adhere to established patterns of behaviors.
Yet, we can pause and consider the temptation to criticize, then listen to our Inner Voice, our Higher Self, to guide us. A sincere intent to improve ourselves benefits us, but to criticize another or ourselves in an attempt to show we are better is not. It’s destructive rather than constructive.
Criticism is directed by fear and can result in anxiety, guilt, and even self-hatred. Yet, the temptation is just a temporary distraction from Self Love and compassion for all of us. And we can realize this.
To realize that we all are tempted is the beginning of having compassion for ourselves. And ….. that compassion rises our level of consciousness to encompass Acceptance, Understanding and Love for ourselves, for others and all Beings. And certainly increases our happiness!
In the hope You find Love close at hand, PortiaSLB
“Only Truth will set us Free. Lies are bonds woven from all kinds of evil elements.”
Eugene Fersen, Aphorisms of The Lightbearer, page 127.
Each one of can become extraordinary, change our health, gene activation, and even DNA!
Change starts in the mind ….
It’s as simple as changing our habitual thoughts and emotions. Memories, along with thoughts and emotions accumulate and grow in the subconscious and body unnoticed. But these energies eventually return to our awareness.
If we unconsciously carry any trauma like abuse experienced during childhood into adulthood … we may wake up in the mornings feeling some anxiety, not knowing why. Or it may manifest in our bodies causing dis-ease.
For years I’ve experienced feelings of not belonging in this world, not knowing why until I began exploring my emotions and feelings. As children we are naive and weren’t consciously mature or educated to release negative emotions, like guilt, fear or anger.
With these emotions buried they may resurface, warped into feelings of anxiety, resentment, sadness, insecurity, and jealousy. As we repeat thoughts and feelings our brain becomes wired with pathways …. we’ve become conditioned and familiar with the habit.
We stick with the familiar even when it is not best for us. There may be some change …. because life is constant change …. but usually very familiar change.
A shift can happen when we release the past and move our thinking and emotions into the present moment.
Our emotions are key to change
The good news is that changing our mind is easier than we are led to believe. It may feel uncomfortable, but that is only because we will be moving out of the familiar.
It’s simple
First thing is to become aware of your state of mind in the moment. Become conscious of your thoughts and feelings. Especially your feelings. Why? Because feelings point to emotions, which are key!
Here comes the unfamiliar part ….. once you recognize a bothersome feeing like jealousy ….. just notice it …… without getting involved it it. Let it pass you by.
And consciously choose uplifting thoughts of optimism, generosity, understanding and compassion.
This may initially feel uncomfortable, yet with practice it begins to feel natural ….. because states of optimism, trust, serenity and lovingness is your innate nature. And these energies eventually manifest in the body’s cells and in your health.
There’s brilliant help!
You always have the help of the Eternal and can easily contact that harmonizing Source by making the Mental Contact with Universal Life Energy. It is ubiquitous and functions that way, harmonizing body and mind.
I make the Mental Contact when I notice uncomfortable feelings to help me observe without getting involved, and then reach for higher levels of consciousness like Courage, Trust and Love.
During meditation you may further explore feelings to get to base emotions, or memories, so they might be released to The Great Principle. And you can focus on consciously choosing to be accepting and loving.
In the hope you find Love close at hand, PortiaSLB
scientific research links
Here are 2 links from the Mayo Clinic and John Hopkins connecting stress, thinking and emotions and health:
“It is a very important thing that we should not keep love unmanifested, but should at every opportunity disclose it, show it forth, manifest it, be it in a word, in a smile, in a look or in a handshake.”
We all suffer, and for those of us on a conscious spiritual journey we may suffer emotionally more than anything. As we travel along gaining more and more experiences, there is the process of learning from our mistakes. And this can cause the greatest emotional suffering, yet it is part of the human growth process. The good news is that we can rise above it.
There are egotistic challenges …
Like guilt, self-righteousness, pride and frustration. Impatience is one that I repeat and I suffer emotionally from with guilt, resentment and even self hatred. Sometimes it seems to be an endless dark, painful tunnel of different negative traits! Yet there is Light of hope and inspiration to continue to fight for Freedom.
One thing egotistic challenges teach us is to be more conscious, alert and aware of temptations that surface. And that they should be faced, rather than pushed down again only to resurface stronger than ever. Better to face and release now than let them fester and grow.
And if we ignore feelings and dealing with trauma and traits that may have initially happened in childhood, we cause ourselves more trauma unknowingly. In childhood if we didn’t have help with trauma, we probably suppressed our emotions, which grew unnoticed. We were naive.
So when we become stressed in our daily life; feeling bothersome feelings like anxiety we may try to soothe or numb ourselves by looking for comfort in overindulgence in unhelpful matters, like over eating, porn, drugs.
Better to face negative emotions and past memories of trauma, rather than continuing to be naive, so we can come to the present moment fully. And feel the uncomfortable emotions and consciously choose to let them go ….. then embrace those emotions that are uplifting. It’s our choice, after all!
The fight for Freedom
Some may encourage us to be humble and forgiving to overcome negative traits, Yet, humility haves connotations and definitions of lowliness and unworthiness. Forgiveness has connotations and definitions of indulging in excuses for wrong doing, or ignoring negativity.
I’ve found that being accepting and compassionate are fitting and accurate. When we can accept our and others egotistic fallibilities as being human we can give up, that is release, the obsession with “being right!”
Self-honesty requires courage. And courage lifts us consciously; it helps us recognize negative patterns of resentment and condemnation without getting all involved and stuck, then feeling guilty about it.
We can be compassionate, see our human fallibility and be willing to do something about it, by releasing it, letting it pass us by. This is being lead by Unconditional Love.
We may initially feel the pain of an egotistic trait or traumatic memory. In fact the pain points to what needs awareness and healing. Sure, self defensiveness may creep up too!
Yet, those egotistic constricts are released when we let them pass us by. And we are able to rise above the pain into understanding, optimism and gratitude.
I become so grateful for becoming aware of different painful emotions …. temptations that where under the surface and have been around a long, long time stemming from childhood trauma.
We can face dark memories and emotions stemming from trauma and be protected. You have the help, and we all do, of The Great Law through Higher Consciousness, with Universal Life Energy as the constant inspiring Source of Power and Unconditional Love. Such Love is our True protection. We merely have to be compassionate and willing to make the Mental Contact with Universal Life Energy.
Rise above
It seems obvious that with more self-honesty and release of negative temptations we become less vulnerable to self condemnation and creating more trauma of fearful traits of feeling like a victim, self-hatred and escape-ism.
With acceptance, compassion and release we rise above the emotional pain. And with gracious and compassionate attitudes like alert awareness and optimistic gratitude, we can rise in consciousness.
We can align with our natural state of happiness, Joy, Love and Harmony. Yet, we must be brave!
In the hope You find Love close at hand, PortiaSLB
“Superconsciousness, as the connecting link between the humanly conscious You and the complete real YOU, will be definitely assigned its place in your comprehension.”
Eugene Fersen, The Fundamental Principles of Science of Being, page 283.
No matter how much you may be tempted to place blame someone else You are responsible for your life…… for your experiences, mistakes and successes, challenges and opportunities. You are the path maker and path taker, the dreamer and the builder.
And no matter how tempting negative urges may be, like impatience and worry, you are very capable of observing them within yourself without involvement.
For example, when I am negatively criticized I immediately notice that I may be tempted to choose a revengeful, verbal attack. Yet, I become conscious of the temptation because of the way it feels …. dark.
This may happen to you also, but know that after that first time you recognize such a temptation and choose to let it go, You will choose to release it again and again …… because of the way it feels …. harmonious. And Peace will be upon you.
But even when we do fall into negative temptations, we can learn from the experience. Our Higher Self helps us recognize Truth through intuition, gut feelings, instinct and even reason.
There is no comprise with Truth. It is Truth always. It is what It is. And when I recognize that I’ve fallen into a fear based temptation, like guilt and self-punishment, I am Grateful for my Higher Self’s recognition and the Truth of it. And I know that I have the freedom of choice to move beyond the mistake and return to sanity and Love. And that freedom is so inspiring.
#2 see yourself in others
Relationships are wonderful opportunities to expand our happiness, including those that may seem challenging. We are not here to judge or to change anyone else, rather to learn to love and evolve as we travel our own spiritual path ….. to change ourself and be lead by Love in our earthly life.
As we come to know our own good, bad and ugly without attachments, we can walk alongside another person and get insights into their conditioning that hold them in subconscious habits and traits similar to us.
And You may begin to see yourself in them. Recognition can stir a longing and hope for them to suffer less.
And You may feel compassionate energy spring from your heart, touch them and eventually return to you increased even though you expected nothing in return. It’s the Laws of Attraction and Compensation being factors in your reality.Â
#3 Relate to everything!
Everything is connected through Universal Life Energy and you can feel It. You can cup up your hands, silent the thinking mind and feel Universal Life Energy flowing through You, flowing through Mother Nature, the plants, the trees, the earth, the air, the expansive of the universe.
You can observe the Beauty in a nonattached state that is impersonal, yet deeply moving and loving. And feel yourself expand mentally and your emotions soar!
#4 This naturally leads to gratitude and ways to express it
As You recognize your interconnection with the Universe, You may come to feel a deep, sincere gratitude. And compassion may rise in your Heart with an intent of easing suffering in the world. And with the help of the Great Principle this intent will also ease suffering within yourself.
“People value Freedom above all else; no more magnetic power of Attraction could exist than the sense of Freedom which your Individuality radiates from all your Being.”
Eugene Fersen, The Fundamental Principle of Science of Being, page 312.
A sincere spiritual seeker is courageously truthful about ourselves, living in a state of conscious awareness. Earnestly practice being aware of where the mind lives, its thinking and emotions.
And when you feel that anything is out of peace, disturbing your consciousness, you can know that you need only be willing to take simple steps to reestablish Inner harmony.
First
The first step is to pause and go silent ….. being consciously aware. Gradually let any circling of monkey chatter go silent. Bring the attention within yourself, becoming calm and present in the moment. Thus, we are living Life as it is meant to be …… as a conscious Being engaged in the moment.
To go into the silence in any moment a daily exercise called Relaxation and Silence can help. This is a simple exercise in which we relax the body, gradually silence the monkey chatter, and becoming conscious of profound peace and presence of something greater than ourselves. One can become aware of actually feeling that Presence as Universal Life Energy.
This is the 2nd Step
When you go within yourself and become conscious of the present moment, practice being fully appreciative of what’s around you ….. what’s happening without habitual pattern judgments.
A sincere spiritual seeker’s second step to awakening is becoming aware of the witness within. To view the world with new eyes, with interest, awareness and appreciation. To view what we experience, think and feel as if for the first time.
And to courageously face the challenge of the ego with all its obstinate thoughts and emotions with a compassionate Heart and Deep Love. To be willing to accept ourselves and the moment as it is with Understanding and Inspirational Harmony.
As an example
I have experienced much emotional pain and mental anguish and have became aware that those labels caused more pain rather than lessening it. And not until I pause and became silent do I begin to calm the emotions. And in that moment, like a flash, I can become grateful for this awareness about the ego.
I become aware of the witness within. Initially, awareness of emotional pain feels bitter-sweet, but when we are truly grateful there is no bitterness. We cannot sincerely feel true gratitude and anguish at the same time.
We can choose gratitude ….. We can outgrow challenges like feeling anguish, fear, hatred, worry, anger, jealousy and unworthiness; that is evolve beyond them.
We may be tempted by the ego to dive into emotional payoffs with blame, guilt, self-righteousness, fault-finding and being right. Yet we can choose to be a doer rather than a critic. We can learn from our mistakes. And even become grateful for them!
We can learn to love ourselves unconditionally and thus we develop compassion for others and love them unconditionally too.
Polarity in human thinking
The human mind is naive and the ego feels emotional pain. Yet, that emotional pain is a flag to awaken us to become conscious! And as a witness in conscious awareness we can view experiences without circling in egotistic traits..
It is a courageous mental exercise to be aware of polarities like how we view emotional anguish and gratitude. Both seem to have elements of the other within them. It is only our mental attitude, our mental perception, our belief that an experience is anguish or gratitude.
It’s similar for seemly polar emotions like fear and love, resentment and freedom, condemnation and forgiveness. Our morals, our values, our mental beliefs, habits and beliefs color how we see and experience life ….. how we experience challenges.
What to do when you are challenged
To outgrow temptations and the payoffs of negative, egotistic traits we should be willing to look at them honestly. Pause, become silent and conscious of the witness within. And be compassionate.
Choose to step into a higher frequency. Negate any thought or emotion that does not serve the better good, throwing it in a mental trashcan. Then purposefully choose higher levels of consciousness like optimism, understanding, trust and love. And we can choose the help of Divine Harmony by contacting Universal Life Energy.
The sincere spiritual seeker will be willing to to fight for their freedom, for Inner Peace and Harmony. And when we do then we are becoming aware of our Higher Self, our Higher Consciousness, our Soul.
In the hope You find Love close at hand, PortiaSLB
“Practice Truth, and thereby cast off the fetters of weakness and fear with which untruth has bound you. Love Truth, and you will gain the treasures of this World, not merely of wealth, but of trust and honor and abounding love.”
Eugene Fersen, The Fundamental Principles of Science of Being, page 175.
Sometimes we can be tormented by the continuous thinking and dwelling in negative traits like regret, anxiety, and craving. We don’t like it or want it, but we can’t seem to stop ourselves. When I am tempted ….. I consciously choose to observe the ego in a detached state and I naturally become grateful for the help of my Higher Self.
HARMONIZATION is the most beneficial practice I’ve experienced that brings me calm peace and expansion into happiness. And this opportunity is always available in an instant.
With practice of Relaxation and Silence you open your body and mind to the influx of Universal Life Energy, the harmonizing Power of the Universe ….. And it leads to a greater awareness of your connection and Oneness with Universal Consciousness or Divine Mind ….. where we are guaranteed Peace and Harmony.
“No circumstances even of the utmost danger can disturb” the calm and peace of mind and emotions when you experience Harmonization:
“After you have relaxed, entered into Silence and made the Contact with Universal Life Energy, concentrate on the Love Aspect of that Force from which Peace and Harmony spring.
Eugene Fersen, The Fundamental Principles of Science of Being, page 380.
Allow yourself to trust the Supreme Power and let inspiration draw you into the core of your Spiritual Heart and your innate Oneness with Infinite Harmony. …..”it makes you master over yourself.”
It’s simple and this can be achieved in an instant, in any moment. The only thing you must do is be willing to pause and consciously reconnect with Unconditional Love ….. with that which you are already.
Being willing is very different from using counter-constructive egotistic, human will. There is trust and love; motivation by inspiration. You surrender and deliver yourself into the arms of Divine Mind.
You allow yourself to experience in your present physical form the Divine that you are. It’s a paradox; an effortless phenomenon of duality/unity. And NOW becomes an exquisite moment of enjoyment, happiness and harmony that expands and grows into future possibilities.
In the hope You find Love close at hand, PortiaSLB
“There can be no compromise with Love. It is an Impersonal Force, All-Pervading, All-Powerful, Supreme. No human Will can affect in the slightest the Power that holds the Universe in its grip. If you accommodate yourself with it, you will reap all the advantages that such a Strength can achieve.”
Eugene Fersen, The Fundamental Principles of Science of Being, page 380.
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4 mind blowing practices for instant Expansion and Happiness
When I asked a stressed parent what their top way to turn a day around was they said, “to drop the kids at the grandparents!” Made me giggle because I understand that logic!
All of us can feel like we are having a bad day at one time or another! Yet know that you have the Power to transcend it!
#1. Pause, take a deep breath!
So simple and effective to reclaim your connection with Life and the Source of All Power. resetting your body’s energies and your mind’s too! With that pause and deep breath you are drawing in the Life of the Universe! And It will help you recenter in your Inner confidence to work out things for the best outcome.
As you exhale your body will automatically release some stress and begin to relax, along with your thinking. Stress is based in fear on the mental/emotional levels, so choosing to pause is choosing to recenter mentally in calm rather than negative opinions.
In that calm is the opportunity to deliberately synchronize your thinking and body body with Infinite Harmony ….. Make the Mental Contact with Universal Life Energy and let it flow. Be in the flow, in the vortex of harmonious Life.
#2. Move!
Walk to a different location to be in different atmospheric energies and move your auric energies. Walking can disperse hormonal chemicals related to stress and even soothe neurons in the brain.
Research has shown walking in nature is even better, decreasing anxiety as we synchronize with those natural energies.
If you notice your body language says aggravated or weak, elevate it! Bring your shoulders back and head up into a natural upright position which will also help you synchronize with your innate, confidence and strength.
#3. Change the story you’ve been telling yourself.
Recognize what is going right in your day. The moment you choose a loving thought you are realigning with Harmony and your natural state!
Remember you are an Infinite Being of Light and not subject to attachment to fears like worry and resentment habits. Observe in a detached state, releasing any temptation to think more, labeling and identifying with negative opinions.
You are a Light and Love Being! You, as an Infinite Soul, express all the same qualities as the Eternal: Life, Intelligence, Law and Love.
#4. Remember challenges point to opportunities to heal!
As in the quote below, effect points to the cause! And what we mentally focus on tends to manifest. So we can transcend karma by lifting and transcending our mental level of consciousness ….. that is we can deliberately transcend stress in the moment and in our life.
Through our intent we can express Harmony. It is mapped out for us as the FourSquare. By expressing in our attitudes and behaviors: Enthusiasm, Intelligence, Sincerity and Love we raise our consciousness and transcend ‘bad day’ attitudes.
And contacting Universal Life Energy can also helps us be conscious of those inner qualities and express them.
#5. choose happiness!
We choose what to anchor the mind and our thinking in! Choose happiness! Deliberately choose higher levels of consciousness like Optimisium, meaningful Reason, unconditional Love, All the FourSquare!
Gratitude can help. Once you recognize one reason to be grateful, I’ve found that many, many more become obvious to us! And this lifts our consciousness.
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Once our human mind starts to identify a day as ‘bad’ it tends to circle in negative thinking, monkey chatter. Yet, we can choose the way of happiness!
In the hope You find Love close at hand, PortiaSLB
“The Cause is known by the Effect produced.”
Eugene Fersen, Pearls of Wisdom, Volume 1, page 249.
From my own experience …. we unconsciously cling to disharmony! Consciously we don’t want to ….. but disharmony will poke its ugly head up in various ways ….. in life situations, as painful emotions, negative attitudes and unbalanced bodies.
This is an amazing thing to realize!
Disharmony in our life exists because of the Law of Harmony! We consciously want to be happy and even the subconscious ego desires happiness, but the ego is also neurotic, causing disharmony.Â
When the subconscious ego hits against Harmony it creates an egotistical concept of disharmony and we suffer. The unconscious strategy of the subconscious ego is to get attention and drama pays! The ego can unconsciously make you feel like you have to perform to get any attention. And thus, we grumble, complain, shout, protest, and declare war.
Your authentic self quests for Harmony
When things really get bad, a sincere person goes silent and asks why: Why do I suffer this pain and hurt?Â
It is a turning point. You are beginning to become conscious, and quest to find the cause of disharmony and how to avoid it. This is how we begin to find harmony.Â
Thinking is very addictive! So take some deep breathes and practice Relaxation and Silence at least once a day. Stop fighting, stop performing  and begin relaxing in the moment. Peace is your natural state and your soul qualities surface in peacefulness.
Try to understand yourself, the way your mind and ego works, the reason for disharmony. This will help you understand and relate to others.Â
Meditation can help you align with your Higher Self, your supersonciousness. Slowly, slowly as your silent quest for answers deepens so does your understanding.
Express Love simply. Be decent. We are all connected so have goodwill towards others and hope the best for them. And, be consciously grateful for the so called little things in your life and the big things.
Lack of gratitude has a terrible impact on our life. It is an indication that mind has turned away from Love and our mind gone cold. Gratitude warms our heart and mind. Â
Avoid disharmony
Mind is the leader here on earth, so when you are conscious of love in your thoughts, when you choose love, then the rest of you follows. Your attitudes, emotions and behaviors also express love. You are cooperating with harmony, aligning with Harmony.
Harmony is essential in all things
Deep inside we all quest for Harmony and Love. And Harmony is always here to help you.
In the hope You find Love close at hand, PortiaSLB
“We are not victims of disharmony, because disharmony would have taken good care of us. Devils are always pictured as taking good care of their fellow devils. Like protects like. What brought misery into the World? Not evil, but the Law of Harmony. Harmony is manifested in a world of disharmony. It is the worst enemy of those who are disharmonious.”
Eugene Fersen, Advanced Teachings in Science of Being, Volume I, pages 93- 94.
We all are searching and desire happiness. At the heart of it is we are searching for Love. We search for that special someone to fall in romantic love with. And when we do, we seem to float on air and see the world through rose colored glasses.
Eventually we come back down to earth.
And this is when aggressiveness and courage becomes a great benefit to us. …. kindly use link…We should be aggressive in this
In the hope You find Love close at hand, PortiaSLB
When we consciously think well of others it helps heal ourselves and the world. Manifesting unconditional Love while we are at work, doing errands, at home or anywhere, we are living a conscious heart. Our Spiritual Heart is where our innate Wise Love is seated.
And manifesting those qualities of our Soul with Love leading us refines our character and lifts us on the mental and physical planes, helping us face any challenge before us. We free ourselves from the ego’s demands and can choose a path that benefits ourselves and everyone around us.
There will be a state of calm and harmony within us, which helps us clear our thinking to consciously choose to Be FourSquare expressing Enthusiasm, Intelligence, Sincerity and most of all Love. And these choices are in harmony with the qualities of Source and our very Soul. The effect, being in harmony with Source, will be of the most benefit.
In the hope You find Love close at hand, PortiaSLB
“Similarly, you must radiate from yourself the Magnetic Power of Love which will draw like response from those with whom you come in contact.”
Eugene Fersen, Science of Being (looseleaf in 27 Lessons), page 633.
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