1. Self-centeredness
We like to think we are unselfish, but unfortunately, we stick with what we are familiar with. If we think we’re unhappy we experience our reality through the lens of our unhappiness. And, we will circle over and over in our mind why we are unhappy, which leads to finding more reasons to be unhappy.
Our selfishness can cause us to suffer, yet self-centeredness with the purpose of self-awareness can lead to us becoming more conscious of how and why we create our reality the way we do. Meditation and mindfulness in the moment are important tools to becoming more self aware.
When we discover what is weak and what is strong within us, what is ignorant and what is intelligent, what is dishonest and what is sincere, what is unkind and what is loving within us, we learn what is helpful and what is harmful.
2. Mindful in love making
Most of us lust in sex, especially in our younger years. Lust is a mechanical thing, a subconscious egotistic urge with little to no Self-awareness other than the desire for sexual satisfaction. Even when we think we are aiming to satisfy and love another person, we are out for our own satisfaction.
We desire to be desirable and to be loved, but it’s like in the song, “I can’t get no satisfaction!” We have been plagued by the subconscious ego for so long that we doubt the tenderness of our heart, our ability to love unconditionally. We feel separate from everyone else in the world and disconnected from the Eternal, so we seek love through our lust. But, when we do get satisfaction, when we reach an orgasm then our lust disappears. We become conscious of, at least to an extent, an euphoric state.
Yet, if you are mindful and conscious during love making, the observer of the thinker and observer of your emotions, truly enjoying your partner, being with them, feeling connected then you will become more aware of the moment without attachment.
A paradox of sorts because we feel connected, yet freer. When we love we feel light. Freer of the subconscious ego that holds us down, makes us dense and heavy because it imprisons us with fear, afraid of being unlovable and of committing to love.
You can rise into higher conscious energy and emotional frequencies of the heart. Amazingly you may become more conscious of love. Conscious of being one with your partner, while being two. Conscious of I am that.
The true pleasure, enjoyment of loving making becomes beauty. You are experiencing the Principle of Love. When we live for the good of our loved one without expectation we are living soul love. We love everything beautiful, strong, good and wise. We love the whole world because we are so happy.
Through your love for another person you are Loving the Great Principle – I am That! It is a return to Love; knowing that you are one with the unconditional Love of the Great Principle and indissolubly connected.
In the hope You find Love close at hand, PortiaSLB
For more: But why sexual attraction, The Law of Gender Part 4.
“True Love is the only unselfish power. Love is not affected by anything, It affects everything.”
Eugene Fersen, Pearls of Wisdom, Teachings of Eugene Fersen, Volume I, page 279.
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