Mindful in love making and Self-centeredness – 2 unconventional methods for positive change!

1.  Self-centeredness

We like to think we are unselfish, but unfortunately, we stick with what we are familiar with. If we think we’re unhappy we experience our reality through the lens of our unhappiness. And, we will circle over and over in our mind why we are unhappy, which leads to finding more reasons to be unhappy. 

Our selfishness can cause us to suffer, yet self-centeredness with the purpose of self-awareness can lead to us becoming more conscious of how and why we create our reality the way we do. Meditation and mindfulness in the moment are important tools to becoming more self aware.

When we discover what is weak and what is strong within us, what is ignorant and what is intelligent, what is dishonest and what is sincere, what is unkind and what is loving within us, we learn what is helpful and what is harmful. 

 2. Mindful in love making

Most of us lust in sex, especially in our younger years. Lust is a mechanical thing, a subconscious egotistic urge with little to no Self-awareness other than the desire for sexual satisfaction. Even when we think we are aiming to satisfy and love another person, we are out for our own satisfaction. 

We desire to be desirable and to be loved, but it’s like in the song, “I can’t get no satisfaction!” We have been plagued by the subconscious ego for so long that we doubt the tenderness of our heart, our ability to love unconditionally. We feel separate from everyone else in the world and disconnected from the Eternal, so we seek love through our lust. But, when we do get satisfaction, when we reach an orgasm then our lust disappears. We become conscious of, at least to an extent, an euphoric state. 

Yet, if you are mindful and conscious during love making, the observer of the thinker and observer of your emotions, truly enjoying your partner, being with them, feeling connected then you will become more aware of the moment without attachment. 

A paradox of sorts because we feel connected, yet freer. When we love we feel light. Freer of the subconscious ego that holds us down, makes us dense and heavy because it imprisons us with fear, afraid of being unlovable and of committing to love. 

You can rise into higher conscious energy and emotional frequencies of the heart. Amazingly you may become more conscious of love. Conscious of being one with your partner, while being two. Conscious of I am that.

The true pleasure, enjoyment of loving making becomes beauty. You are experiencing the Principle of Love. When we live for the good of our loved one without expectation we are living soul love. We love everything beautiful, strong, good and wise. We love the whole world because we are so happy. 

Through your love for another person you are Loving the Great Principle –  I am That! It is a return to Love; knowing that you are one with the unconditional Love of the Great Principle and indissolubly connected.

In the hope You find Love close at hand, PortiaSLB

For more: But why sexual attraction, The Law of Gender Part 4.


 “True Love is the only unselfish power. Love is not affected by anything, It affects everything.”

Eugene Fersen, Pearls of Wisdom, Teachings of Eugene Fersen, Volume I, page 279.

 

 

A real world Self-protection method that’s a mystical experience

We live in a rapidly changing, interactive world, but we are afraid of being hurt. We’re afraid of being left out, disrespected, ridiculed, abused or betrayed so we try to  protect ourselves by being emotionally guarded, defensive, reclusive, aggressive, angry, complaining, dishonest, or by running away.

But this creates conflict and distance between ourselves. Instead of helping us, these methods of self-protection actually end up hurting us. We want to be loved and respected, but we box our heart in with fear! For a method to release these barriers: Negative emotional contagion.

We suffer from fear

I experienced this very painfully during my youth because felt I didn’t belong in this world and tried to protect myself emotionally by appearing nice, but stuck up. However, inside I screamed for love and affection. I didn’t know I was adding to my detriment.

We can be bombed, stabbed, and killed in many ways, but we usually physically die because of our own fearful thoughts, beliefs and attitudes. Fear and ignorance kills us primarily through karma and attraction.

Your True protection

I’ve learned through spiritual studies and practice that you are naturally protected not by emotional barriers, nor by fear and going on the offense, but by love. Love is your true protection. It does not have an attitude of self-protection, yet when you  love unconditionally you radiate an aura of love that naturally protects you. 

We can be emotionally hurt when hateful arrows of slander, hatred or disgust is thrown at us. It can hit you in the solar plexus or lower heart. Yet, when you are centered in unconditional Love emotional arrows will not hurt you. Even though you recognize the accusations and negative energy, you will feel a calming peace.

Love protects your aura, your mental and emotional being. And, you will feel it physically. I’ve experienced this many times and so can you. 

As you grow closer to unconditional Love, you may become cautious. Yet that caution is perceptive, discriminatory and fearless. You become more confident and trust in Love, even when you experience doubt and an occasional emotional ruffle. 

Enjoy the ride! 

Listen to your intuition and follow the guidance of unconditional Love in your spiritual heart. Your spiritual heart is wise, unifying and fearless.

When you follow the tenderness of your heart your self-perception changes. And, as your self-perception changes, your perception of reality changes. Your inner mystical experiences become as real as your outer physical experiences. 

Another way to put it: 

Arrows Fly→→→

Listening to self-deception, sharpened by fear, jealousy, accusation,
Self-righteous arrows fly→→→  searching for their target to inflect  pain by humiliation.

The targeted heart♥←←← being both judicious and tender, ardently follows Spirit  consideration,
Whispers silent words forgiving, gently pressing in arrows of desperation.

Self-righteous slings more arrows→→→ whetted with suspicion of retaliation.
Again targeted heart♥←←← presses in arrows realizing psyche seeks release from the  pain  of holding on to fearful accumulation.

Anxious psyche shakes off self-doubt while searching for an explanation,
Unknowingly cries out for freedom from self-righteous justification.

Ardent heart♥ in stillness offers tender and gentle Love as motivation.
Looks up within for further guidance and inspiration.

The intent being to elicit Truth when there is possibility of arrows’ mobility,
The wish to convey the highest form of compatibility,
The hope being to maintain inner tranquility,
The reality being to deny fear of any other possibility.

With Light and Love, Portia SLB


“Whenever we do anything with the Spirit of Love, that thing endures, because Love is cement which is very strong.”

Eugene Fersen, Aphorisms of The Lightbearer, page 109.

photo taken in Thailand