Mindful in love making and Self-centeredness – 2 unconventional methods for positive change!

1.  Self-centeredness

We like to think we are unselfish, but unfortunately, we stick with what we are familiar with. If we think we’re unhappy we experience our reality through the lens of our unhappiness. And, we will circle over and over in our mind why we are unhappy, which leads to finding more reasons to be unhappy. 

Our selfishness can cause us to suffer, yet self-centeredness with the purpose of self-awareness can lead to us becoming more conscious of how and why we create our reality the way we do. Meditation and mindfulness in the moment are important tools to becoming more self aware.

When we discover what is weak and what is strong within us, what is ignorant and what is intelligent, what is dishonest and what is sincere, what is unkind and what is loving within us, we learn what is helpful and what is harmful. 

 2. Mindful in love making

Most of us lust in sex, especially in our younger years. Lust is a mechanical thing, a subconscious egotistic urge with little to no Self-awareness other than the desire for sexual satisfaction. Even when we think we are aiming to satisfy and love another person, we are out for our own satisfaction. 

We desire to be desirable and to be loved, but it’s like in the song, “I can’t get no satisfaction!” We have been plagued by the subconscious ego for so long that we doubt the tenderness of our heart, our ability to love unconditionally. We feel separate from everyone else in the world and disconnected from the Eternal, so we seek love through our lust. But, when we do get satisfaction, when we reach an orgasm then our lust disappears. We become conscious of, at least to an extent, an euphoric state. 

Yet, if you are mindful and conscious during love making, the observer of the thinker and observer of your emotions, truly enjoying your partner, being with them, feeling connected then you will become more aware of the moment without attachment. 

A paradox of sorts because we feel connected, yet freer. When we love we feel light. Freer of the subconscious ego that holds us down, makes us dense and heavy because it imprisons us with fear, afraid of being unlovable and of committing to love. 

You can rise into higher conscious energy and emotional frequencies of the heart. Amazingly you may become more conscious of love. Conscious of being one with your partner, while being two. Conscious of I am that.

The true pleasure, enjoyment of loving making becomes beauty. You are experiencing the Principle of Love. When we live for the good of our loved one without expectation we are living soul love. We love everything beautiful, strong, good and wise. We love the whole world because we are so happy. 

Through your love for another person you are Loving the Great Principle –  I am That! It is a return to Love; knowing that you are one with the unconditional Love of the Great Principle and indissolubly connected.

In the hope You find Love close at hand, PortiaSLB

For more: But why sexual attraction, The Law of Gender Part 4.


 “True Love is the only unselfish power. Love is not affected by anything, It affects everything.”

Eugene Fersen, Pearls of Wisdom, Teachings of Eugene Fersen, Volume I, page 279.

 

 

You

 

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Though we are far apart
I see the Light in You;
we are close in heart,
we are close in love.

And though we may not speak
I hear your euphoric voice;
the heart that rings True Love,
bringing joy and peace, equipoise.

Though we may not touch
I feel your affectionate embrace;
fear and pride, put aside insomuch
heart to mind, mind to heart does interface.

Though we may not commune physically
I smell the sweet fragrance of your essence
I taste your truth and beauty metaphysically
I sense your rapturous luminescence.

You facilitate individuality and personality intercourse.
Softy joined together the heart of mind thereof;
You are power and force
You are Unconditional Love.

In the hope You find Unconditional Love close at hand, PortiaSLB


…every affection, every fervent emotion, every loving thought, word, look or deed—all these loves, be it the love which makes worlds vibrate, or the little unconscious love of two chemicals, put in the presence of one another and combining because they are mutually attracted—loves small and great, conscious or unconscious, sublime or low, taken together into One Great Whole, make THE ONE INFINITE UNIVERSAL LOVE FOR WHICH NOTHING IS TOO GREAT.

Eugene Fersen, Science of Being.

 

 

The Hots of Our Reality!

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Our ego wants to find love, but can go about it in wrong or harmful ways. It doesn’t really want to know why it’s that way.

Our appetites, our habits, our impulses and libido shape the way we are. They are our desires, and our desires and motivations shape our reality.

We are all looking for Love because mentally we are not conscious of True Love. But, we unconsciously look for love through desires of the ego. The ego can urge us to look for satisfaction or escape through excessive sex, food, recreational drugs and attention. The subconscious ego feels it is lacking which is based in fear. There is no Trust in Universal Love or Universal Abundance.

We can get comfortable with the urges and impulses of the ego and become addicted to over eating, alcohol, sex, infidelity and porn. Food is to sustain our body, an aspect of love and sex is a divine means of helping us realize Love. But, the ego uses urges and impulses to fulfill itself which can end up harming us.

Our great asset is consciousness or awareness. When we are conscious of our desires and motivations we can exercise our authentic power, the power of our soul and individuality. We can use our will to be motivated by love rather than fear.

When we are conscious of Love and motivated by it, then we shape our reality in it. Our thoughts, emotions and behaviors change and thus our reality changes. We live in the flow of life earnestly with enthusiasm, wisdom and caring. We are conscious of goodwill and act with kindness from the tenderness of our heart.

This changes the way we see the world and live our life. It changes our reality because our reality is shaped by the way we are.

In the hope You find Love close at hand, Portia SLB


“We think inharmoniously, and those thoughts of ours –unaware in most cases as we are that they will some day be visited upon us –act most destructively on us. The same is true of our negative emotions, such as hatred, jealousy, revenge, etc. Even if we feel these emotions toward other individuals, ultimately we are the ones who will be most harmed by indulging them, because of the law of Retribution.”

Eugene Fersen, Science of Being