Do We Purposefully Create Conflict in Our Life?

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Television dramas and reality shows soar in popularity, especially when there is obvious conflict. We want the characters to bravely face problems and overcome them. We want happy endings and great achievements. But, why are we so attracted to conflict in stories and competitions? And, do we purposefully create conflict in our life?

The Entertainment

Sure, we like to be entertained with games and stories in the media and conflict makes good drama. We are kept in suspense and are emotionally invested with anticipation in the hope of them overcoming the challenges they face.  We like the adventure and are attracted to it because of our own drama.

Our Power of Creation

We create conflict and drama in our life because we are generally unconscious of falling prey to the subconscious ego, which in turn creates disharmony.

A simple example of this is when I was young and walking along and stumbled, hurting my toe and pride. I asked myself why did I physically experience pain when I wasn’t hurting anyone, just minding my own business. I was young and inexperienced, but I had a spiritual teacher to help me understand myself. It became quite clear that I had been careless. Mindlessly day dreaming rather than being in the moment and caring about how and where I stepped. 

Every fearful emotion we experience like being careless, like being afraid of being alone, of being ridiculed, or of missing out, manifests as a negative behavior. Carelessness can result in a stumble or other mistake. Impatience can result in anger, and anger can lead to brutality. Jealousy can manifest as lying and even as violence. Guilt can result in regret, despair and depression.

The Lessons of Life

At the time, that stumble didn’t seem very important, but it was a valuable experience. I learned to care about what I am doing in the moment, to be grateful and that even deeper understandings can unfold. Conflict can be very painful, yet we can learn some very valuable life lessons.

Like the aphorism, “You can lead a horse to water, but you can’t make him drink,” I am grateful for that experience, for my spiritual Friend and my Inner Teacher. Without being conscious we can miss life opportunities to help ourselves and the importance of love in every behavior that is rooted in the mind and our emotions which manifests in our behaviors. If those emotions are negative we create conflict in our life.

Life Opportunities

Bit by bit, step by step, we become freer, stronger and happier through the Law of Attraction and the Law of Cause and Effect.

When you look someone in the eyes and genuinely smile, it spreads. Being kind and considerate is contagious. Finding solutions to problems with actions, rather than just complaining, is putting out positive energy and benefits everyone. And, that positive energy eventually returns to us increased.

If we do experience conflict or face adversities in our life it can spur us to remember all those life lessons we learned and motivate us to behave with love leading us. That’s a very rewarding life adventure!

In the hope You find Love close at hand, Portia SLB


Until next time consider this quote to reflection upon:

“The whole of Creation is based on adventure.”  Eugene Fersen 


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Butterfly Wisdom – Come to Know You

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COME TO KNOW YOU

We are born and play through our youth
And come to taste the pain of growing up.
In our middle years we more than make up for the time we wasted,
So we think, by striking at everything in sight.
We taste the wine, hear the song, smell the burn of fear.
We walk the walk how we are taught,
And forget how to be a natural friend.
Finally we tire of the game and begin to feel that there’s something wrong
And turn within to face the charges made about us.

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We die we think, yet come to comprehend
We choose to live and die forgetting again.
Each time I come face to face with You
And look in your eyes that are more than a window to the mind;
They are a window to the soul – yours and mine.
I…

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They Test our Patience!

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We’ve all been there. Some people just have a knack for pissing us off! There will be occasions at work, at home, or while we are standing somewhere, when someone triggers an uneasy feeling in us. It can get our dander up!

Until we consciously address fearful emotions they will continue to plague us making us anxious or hard. They become habitual, part of our personality and disposition.

And, we can lose a sense of our True Self.

So What Can We Do?
It’s a matter of mental regulation – recognizing that every unpleasant emotion is a spiritual opportunity and synchronicity, where nothing happens by chance. It’s an opportunity we have set up for ourselves to release the burdens of the subconscious ego and align with our True Self and Love.

Most of us are unaware that the real source of our uneasiness is from fear that is rooted in the subconscious. It can grow there unnoticed only to resurface sooner or later as contentious emotions like anger, apprehension, worry, and hatred causing us bigger problems, even physical illness.

How to Start
When you start to feel some uneasiness, be fully conscious in the moment. Pause your thinking, take a deep breath, relax and quiet the mental chatter; be still. Consider making the Mental Contact with Universal Life Energy (Cosmic Energy, chi, prana, Life Force) to help you relax and refocus.

Be the ‘watcher of the thinker’ from a higher consciousness. Impersonally observe your body language, facial expressions, thoughts and attitude, drawing them into you and feeling them fully without harsh judgment.

Be courageous and very sincere in your examination. Sincerity opens our heart and mind to the inspiration of our Higher Self.

Keep in mind that people who challenge us emotionally are also on a spiritual journey, seeking ways to release the burden of the subconscious. Think of them as facilitators of spiritual synchronicity.

A Deeper Understanding
The reasoning, conscious mind can go only so far in understanding. That’s when we reach for inspiration from our Higher Self by asking questions of ourselves. Questions like:

  • Why am I feeling impatient?
  • Why is it so important to me that I am attached to it?
  • Am I coming from a place of fear or love in my heart?

If we recognize we are tempted by fear, we can let it pass us by, release it and choose another path – Love.

We will still move in our thinking and emotions, therefore, we can further abet release of the temptation by: 

  1. Opening ourselves to a positive emotion like gratitude. A positive emotion negates a negative one.
  2. Manifesting a positive emotion physically in our behavior with a smile, a kind word or stillness.
  3. Changing our body language which can help us move into a positive emotion. Moving can disperse hormonal chemicals like adrenaline. It can take up to 90 seconds ——— to disperse negative energy.
  4. Make a sincere effort to see the Divine. When we see the Divine in another we are also invoking the power to see the Divine within ourselves!

A thought of Love and connection to Harmony destroys negative thoughts within us and we will feel a relief. This frees us from fixed ideas about attack, retaliation, correction and other fearful defenses. 

When we choose Love we are transforming our thought process in our everyday life from fear to Love, thereby, breaking addictive, fearful patterns. 

In the hope You find Love close at hand, Portia SLB


Consider this quote for reflection:

“The guidance of our Higher Self is the best way we can define our Destiny.”

Eugene Fersen, Advanced Teachings in Science of Being, page 47.

Between Souls

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We believe in the illusions of the ego and it’s irresponsibilities, and therefore we experience anger, resentment and impatience, blaming others for our negative traits. Others can help us be aware of those negative traits that burden us.

In the hope You find Love close at hand, Portia SLB


“Love is constant, is known by loyalty, symbolized by Law.”

Eugene Fersen, The Teacher, page 83.

Silent Cry

 

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          Silent Cry

Silent cry, the most painful
Feeling separated from love, apart
Silent cry, the most painful,
Consuming misery in the heart
Silent cry, the most painful,
Emotional desolation does impart
Silent cry, the most painful
Alone inside
No tears, no sounds, no counterpart.


The worst emotional pain is when we feel separated from True Love.

It can feel like our heart is being torn out. That’s because we believe the irresponsibility of the subconscious ego, without consciously knowing we are part of Universal Love; that we are Loved and that we Love. That we are not alone in this world; that we are always connected with each other, Divine Love and the Great Principle.

That suffering can awaken us to Love rather than getting us stuck in depression. It can awaken us to gentleness, kindness and goodwill in others and ourselves. We can emotionally reconnect with the tenderness that is our loving heart.  

In the hope You find Love close at hand, Portia SLB

 

The Invisible Realm

 

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The Invisible Realm

Warm summer day, beauty abounds, elementals dance among the leaves,

More in nature than air, water, cattails and trees, much more to perceive,

Human reality beyond five senses awakens to invisible realm, does conceive,

Nature’s sweet music not for ears, heralds Spirits of Light that interweave

With loving hearts, understanding minds, open arms willing and ready to receive.


There is more in this earthly dimension than the physical eye can perceive. We can feel the wind and the warm rays of the sun, and it is also true of other energies that dance among us, especially in nature. We can feel them when we become quiet inside, with no thoughts interrupting our silence.

There are many, many dimensions and we can get a glimpse of them primarily though our emotional awareness. And, when you are consciously calm and loving then those energies of high frequency will be experienced – Divine Love being the most enlightening!

In the hope You find Love close at hand, Portia SLB

Silent Cry

 

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          Silent Cry

Silent cry, the most painful
Feeling separated from love, apart
Silent cry, the most painful,
Consuming misery in the heart
Silent cry, the most painful,
Emotional desolation does impart
Silent cry, the most painful
Alone inside
No tears, no sounds, no counterpart.

In the hope You find Love close at hand, Portia SLB

 

The Invisible Realm

 

cat tail on lake refined

The Invisible Realm

Warm summer day, beauty abounds, elementals dance among the leaves,

More in nature than air, water, cattails and trees, much more to perceive,

Human reality beyond five senses awakens to invisible realm, does conceive,

Nature’s sweet music not for ears, heralds Spirits of Light that interweave

With loving hearts, understanding minds, open arms willing and ready to receive.

 

In the hope You find Love close at hand, Portia SLB

A Hope of Beauty

 

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A Hope of Beauty

From the mind of man comes the hope of beauty
From the heart of man comes appreciation & manifestation of beauty 
The Soul of man is Beauty.

In the hope You find Love close at hand, Portia SLB


As hu-mans we create problems and ugliness even in our own eyes.  And in our heart we regret them and hope that harmony returns.

Yet, we have to create that harmony and beauty ourselves, within ourselves and around ourselves. When one person does it helps others by inspiring them to create through their behaviors beauty and harmony in their lives.

Humans are beautiful when we manifest our soul. And as souls we are Man – eternal, universal Beings. We are an interweaving of human, soul and the Source and with the beauty we create, we refine ourselves and evolve.


“Creation is the use of the most sacred Powers the Eternal has given us to achieve something.”

Eugene Fersen, Aphorisms of The Lightbearer, page 201.

A Hope of Beauty

 

St Petersburg, Russia mosaic

A Hope of Beauty

From the mind of man comes the hope of beauty
From the heart of man comes appreciation & manifestation of beauty 
The Soul of man is Beauty.

In the hope You find Love close at hand, Portia SLB


“Creation is the use of the most sacred Powers the Eternal has given us to achieve something.”

Eugene Fersen, Aphorisms of The Lightbearer, page 201.