Tag: emotional contagion

2 emotional seductions that caress you daily and how to overcome them

Featured by Science of Being, posted in Power of Emotion

There are two emotional seductions that caresses our subconscious to the point of total infatuation most every day. They hold us back from enjoying ordinary moments and experiencing other possibilities for creating genuine and lasting happiness. Yet, there are ways to free ourselves.

#1.  Everybody’s into it!  

We like to be constantly busy, on our devices, working, moving, doing anything to fill our time, otherwise we can feel guilty, lonely, lazy, crazy, wasting time. Everybody is doing something and the subconscious ego does not want to be left out! Or get bored!

I’ve had to become very conscious of how many times I pick up my phone to check texts, emails, FitBit.

I am aware that tech can be helpful; a tool for information, communication and generally making life easier. I used it to write this entry. But, so many of us have become unconsciously addicted.

We tend to look down when we use tech, which gives us an indication of unconsciously relating to the sub-conscious ego and to the past. We are seduced emotionally, loosing our conscious awareness of the moment.

Your heart knows

To rise above the fear of being left out set tech aside and relate to your heart. Gently rest your hand over your heart and feel the warmth of your inner tenderness. Enter the Silence, listen and become conscious of your spiritual heart and the present moment.

The beautiful thing is that your heart knows without a doubt the deep connection to the Source of everything.

 In that moment you accept life as it is. There is no seductive emotional desire to connect or make yourself busy because you have connected with All Love, all beings, and Source through your Inner love.

Relax and let life unfold according to universal law, aware, observant, grateful for being part of That.

So next time you start to absently minded pick tech up, pause momentarily and live the moment to create a compassionate cause. 

#2.  Taking sides

We’re seduced not so much by the issues of politics, social , economic, religious and world affairs, rather by the emotions that are attached to the issues. Emotions predominately related to the past.

We are so attracted to and relate to like energy we join band wagons and form tribes. We mimic the rhetoric to defend our position. And defending a position eats away our life energy, while adding weeds to the ego.

Critical thinking, logic and reason are thrown out of the mental process because those emotions associated with the past color our discrimination. We see the world through the human perspective of duality. Good and bad. Right and left, blinding ourselves to other possibilities.

A blatant example

A current example is the U.S. population feeling divided. Emotions run so high violence erupts.

We say we deplore discrimination, but we’re lost to our ability to discriminate! And … we see problems …. rather than opportunities for building harmony.

It’s an obvious example of being motivated by fear rather than love, the human perspective of the law of duality. The same thing for religious jehads, many political, economic, social and personal agendas.

Take the opportunity

We get all fired up, wanting to defend our position. Yet, the Eternal creates opportunities for Harmony through us and issues.

Rather than fight against …… consider the law of duality as the Law of Unity – everything blends and has a deep meaning and spiritual purpose.

So when your emotions start to flair up, become conscious of them. And, ask yourself if you are emotionally relating to the past. Has it triggered feelings of protest, anger, resentment from deep rooted fear and possibly hatred?

Be mindful and discriminate. Be conscious of your authentic powers and balance energy, intelligence, accuracy and Love in the moment, seeing in everyone and in everything opportunities to learn something …., that will help you and us all evolve and enjoy life!

In the hope You find Love close at hand, PortiaSLB

“We must be guided by the only Power that can show us Right, by Love, a deep, wide, unassuming feeling which is the foundation of Harmony throughout the whole Universe.”

Eugene Fersen, Pearls of Wisdom, Volume I, page 229.

Photo: Valencia, Spain 2017 PSLB

Trying to cope? Stress is addictive! Here comes relief with RRS

by Science of Being, posted in Keys to Happiness, Power of Emotion, shaping your reality

So many of us are feeling stressed! …. especially during these times of covid and social unrest. Many people are doing double duties ….. parents working from home and simultaneously schooling their children! Some of us have been been laid-off but still have mortgages and bills to pay.

 We’ve become stress, if we weren’t already, but stress blocks us from our peak performance! It’s a habit of survival mode! We don’t purposely become addicted to stress, but it’s something known to us ….. familiar. We may even believe we should be stressed …. it’s our reputation on the line after all! Yet …..  stress is actually abnormal. 

And though stress has physical symptoms and even produces hormones like cortisol that can make us physically ill and fat ….. stress is a mental consciousness issue. Calm, collected and confident is our natural state, which puts us in top performance condition. And we can return to our natural state with conscious intent.

Relaxation will give limited relief of stress, but we must get to the source of stress ….. which is emotional ties like anger, fear and resentment ….. in order to rise above it.

Consider these 4 simple methods to get relief!

# 1 – The simplest thing to do when we are tempted to get stressed is to do the opposite. Breathe in the calm and loving energy of Universal Life Energy. Mind is unable to stop itself from circling in thoughts and feelings even if we tell it to “stop thinking!” We need higher help.

If you felt the pressure of stress come from someone else, like your boss, coworkers or partner, send them Light filled with loving, compassionate thoughts. And mentally negate stress by saying and aligning with something like, “Stress has no power over me. I am calm, collected and loving.”

#2 – Do something else physically:  Move ….. walk to a quiet place if possible ….. preferably in nature. Pause ….. take a deep breathe …. several. Deep breathing naturally induces relaxation ….. and calms the mind and emotions. Moving the body and coming into it mentally by breathing takes the energies from thoughts and feelings.

#3 – Contact Universal Life Energy. IT is a great gift of Our Father. It can help us surrender to Unconditional Love that is within us before we may even remember it.

#4 – Move into a higher level of consciousness with sincere intent from pride into courage ….. by mentally envisioning dropping stress ….. release stress like you would a pencil from your hand, or like a block you burn in the pure fire of Unconditional Love of Universal Life Energy. 

And to release the deeper emotional causes of stress consider the method below.

We have been unconsciously programmed …

like a computer and conditioned to stress because of our mental naivety …. perhaps for thousands of years. We’ve seen adults experience it when we were children. We’ve seen co-workers experience it. It may be programmed in our DNA and cell memories that still causes us “fight, flight, freeze” reactions. This is when contact with Universal Life Energy is invaluable because it naturally harmonizes fear, the deeper emotion. 

Even though others, our boss and co-workers can become stressed, remember …… no-one can make us stressed ….. just like no-one can make us mad….. it’s what we allow. Be conscious of  emotional contagion! The energies of stress can enter the subconsciousness to grow unconsciously making us feel uneasy most of the time!

Questions to get to the bottom of it! 

If we face it ….. the job or issue at hand itself doesn’t cause stress ….. it’s the meaning we give to it! It’s our own internal feelings about it. It’s personal! And we feel personally obligated to fulfill expectations.

The mind created this problem of stress ….. but can’t control it. We can’t control our thoughts ….. our feelings! One emotion can cause a thousand thoughts! We want to get to the bottom of the emotion that causes all the thinking ….. recognition, release and surrender ….(RRS  …  🙂

To begin recognition: Take a deep breathe, relax, go silent and make the Mental Contact. Come into the present moment and observe in a detached state ‘the thinker’ before questioning.

These questions are more of what rather than why ….. mostly because why questions are abstract and we can get blogged down in memories and associated feelings. What questions can lead back to the base emotion without entanglement!

Questions like: For what? So what? Of what? Then what? 

What does it feel like? What are the physical symptoms? Sometimes simply observing the physical symptoms or sensations and labeling it like ‘pressure around the heart’ or ‘difficult to take deep breathes’ (the one I often experienced) makes it easier to recognize! Pressure for what? For what purpose?

The primary question:  What’s the payoff?

The ego will fight tooth and nail at this point! It feeds on the belief of stress and hyped up emotions to keep it alive and kicking!

What’s the payoff for feeling stressed? …. To feel better about ourselves? …. To feel like we’re at least doing something?

Does it fill the hole of low self-esteem? What for? To compensate for insecurities, shame, guilt, fear? 

Fear of what? ….. Fear of not being good enough ….. not being fit to be loved, lovable?

Staying in self-analysis and question mode is not the objective and we could circle and get trapped there if we dilly dally ….. so consider moving to more beneficial steps!

Try this …..nothing has any meaning other than what we give to it!

It may helpful to look at A Course in Miracles which is viewed by most spiritually minded people, It has Christian connotations, but can be used by anyone! You can listen to YouTube explanations to learn what the coarse is all about.

There are 365 lessons …. one practice for each day of the year. Hence, I am sharing the first 10 lessons in the workbook, which I found to be very helpful to release arrogance and ‘know it all’ attitudes which are related to stress:  so practice thinking and realizing as per instruction several times a day!

 – Lesson 1, Day 1 – Look at any object in the room or outside and say/realize – “Nothing I see in this room (on this street, from this window, in this place) means anything.” …. page 23 of workbook.

– Lesson 2 – “I have given everything I see in this room (on this street, from this window, in this place) all the meaning that it has for me.”

– Lesson 3 – “I do not understand anything I see in the room (on this street, from this window, in this place).”

– Lesson 4 – ” These thoughts do not mean anything. They are like the things I see in the room (on this street, from this window, in this place).”

– Lesson 5 – ” I am never upset for the reason I think.”

– Lesson 6 – ” I am upset because I see something that is not there.”

– Lesson 7 – “I see only the past.” (It takes at least a split second for anything we see to travel to the brain and process! Hence …. a true statement. And stress and expectations are based in the past!)

– Lesson 8 – “My mind is preoccupied with past thoughts.”

– Lesson 9 – “I see nothing as it is now.”

– Lesson 10 – “My thoughts do not mean anything.”

It may be helpful to write these down and keep a journal to record realization of release of subconscious conditioning programmed from the past.

Release and surrender

Recognition of stress and release of emotional causes are essential processing, yet the primary one is surrender ….. surrender ourselves ….. our thinking and emotions ….. our expectations …… to Unconditional Love. When we allow ourselves to recognize, release and surrender to Love …… we discover our innate courage and real security!

There is sureness and gentleness rather than hurry when we release stress because we are conscious that there is always plenty of time to do what is essential. We trust in the Great Law!

What we gain 

We can view stress, or any other emotional issue, by finding the value in it …. by giving it new meaning …. by viewing it as an opportunity to learn and grow.

The release of stress gives us the opportunity to surrender to Unconditional Love ….. and regain our peace of mind. This is a great gift ….. because we have also lightened the burden of defensiveness, resentment anger, and self-punishment. We are less vulnerable and fearful.

We are calmer, happier and more powerful.

In the hope You find Love close at hand, PortiaSLB

“Whenever you feel the impulse to indulge in some negative inner call, school yourself to bring out instead the exactly opposite and positive quality.”

Eugene Fersen, Lesson 12 in 27 Lessons in Science of Being, page 255.

This entry relates to Lesson 12 in 27 Lessons in Science of Being. Kindly use link. 

Negative Emotional Contagion of fear and Protecting Yourself, Power of Emotions to Change Your Life, Part 7

by Science of Being, posted in Power of Emotion

Negative Emotional Contagion

and Protecting Yourself 

Because of the mass fear circling the global I am republishing this very relative entry in the hopes that we Lightbearers can remember and be the brightness in the dark. Fear is very contagious, however it is an illusion of the subconscious. Caution is wise while Love protects us.

Let us bear the Light and Love and Give the Healing Vibrations to humanity today and everyday. And thus this entry in the hopes it will give you insight, courage and inspiration to be Strong, Wise, True and Loving…. 

I will continue editing this entry to make it more relevant, so if you notice any changes from the email you received because you signed up to “follow” the site and what is on the website now … you know why… I aim to make it shorter and more useful relative to what’s happening around the world! But, You can always go to view the original posting from 2015.

Emotional energy is contagious, especially negative emotions like fear that is circling the globe, but there are ways to protect yourself and uplift those around you, and indeed the world.

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What’s Happening
Low-frequency energy projected as fear can be thrown to you personally or to humanity as a whole and can hit you hard. It may be generated by mass media but jump from one person to next, resulting in global scale hysteria if you are not conscious, mindful in the moment, and radiate an aura of calm and love. 

Taking precautions is wise. Being logical is reasonable and smart. Wisdom is better. Love is best. With the help of the Great Principle and your Inner Being the hope is you find herein this entry ways and means of protection and projection of Love. 

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Emotional energy can jump from one person to another to enslave an entire group, create a mob, or even enslave the global community! A really dramatic emotional attack like fear can feel like a blow to the solar plexus, even send you bending doubled over, arms clucking over your belly trying to heal the hurt of dread and worry. Or it can feel like an arrow to the heart, especially if the emotion of fear or hatred is involved since the heart is the seat of love. Hatred is based in fear, a polar of love. Most of us have definitely felt it one time or another because we are not consciously centered in love ourselves. We may put our hand to our heart in an unconscious effort to boost our energy and love there.

Fear depletes the life force stored in our solar plexus. Or more accurately fear is stored in the solar plexus because of our unconscious disconnect with Universal Life Energy. Fear instead of the Life Force is radiated throughout our body. Over time a deficient Solar plexus can make us feel low in energy, confused and insecure, even sick.

Fear can also settle and grow in the heart chakra for the same reason because we unconsciously disconnect from Universal Life Energy, Universal Love Itself. Eventually a deficient heart chakra can make us feel unloved, sorry for ourselves and like a victim. And even worst, when negative energy accumulates because we do not know how to protect ourselves or release it, our physical heart can be damaged, manifesting as heart dis-ease.

How to Protect Yourself
We react stronger and quicker to negative emotions of others because we carry around the same low-frequency energy in our subconscious ego. Through the Law of Attraction the negative emotion draws out negative emotions from us if we let the ego dominate and make a slave of us.

It’s almost like we can’t help our self getting caught up in the emotional energy of fear!  It’s so contagious….unless… we are alert and aware… conscious of ‘the thinker,’ observant without attachment, mindful so we don’t get caught up in the monkey chatter of the subconscious ego and get involved in any fearful energy that jumps around.

Here are some ways to protect ourselves:

  • Be conscious of the temptation to jump into a negative emotion like fear. Being conscious of the temptation is being conscious of our authentic powers as a soul – our mental freedom of choice and self-determination. We manifest in the Universal Laws, including Karma (Cause and Effect), but we still have a choice as a soul how we proceed in Life; how we evolve – how we learn the principles of Life. 
  • From that conscious awareness of our soul power of choice, the calm of our Higher Self can help us free ourselves of the burden of the subconscious temptation. We can release it, step back from it and let it go. That freedom to choose is a great gift!

 If we succumb to temptation and release negative energy in the form of anger or other negative traits like fear on others it will only boomerang to return to us sooner or later. And, that negative energy will gain strength due to accumulating similar energies as it circles in our personal and human mental atmosphere over time. This is what’s happening in the world now.

  • If we choose to step back from it, we may still get bombarded by more negative energy from those that are angry and really intent of passing on fear and panic. The drama is so seductive. Mentally deny the possibility of transfer of negativity, that is deny the possibility of it adversity affecting you. This is called mental negation. And it is a powerful tool!
  • If you contact Universal Energy, which is Universal Love, and visualize it radiating from your Heart you will create a bubble of protection in your aura. You will feel a difference in your attitude, or at least I do! 
  • Yet, our greatest and only True protection from negative emotional contagion is Love, unconditional and impersonal. Love harmonizes everything sooner or later.
  • Love and Mind combined, detached awareness centered in Love, helps us in stressful situations and allows us to be conscious of negative energy and the possibility of emotional contagion without responding to it. 

A Treasure
You are empowered to release any temptation to jump into negative energy. But, if you do get caught up in the drama of the situation and recognize that you have, then remember that it is your Higher Self and the Great Principle disclosing that the personality (human ego) is out of alignment with your soul. That insight is humbling and something to treasure. 

An important point to remember is that we learn from our stumbles; that we can get up and continue working to free ourselves of the subconscious ego. We have gotten on the other side of a mistake.

We are reaching for love and our own authentic Power and the Great Principle is always compassionately helping us. 

Also consider using those steps in Part 2 and Part 3 of this series.

For being a positive force using emotional contagion use this link:

https://scienceofbeingblog.net/2015/12/07/being-a-positive-force-in-the-world-through-emotional-contagion-power-of-emotions-to-change-your-life-part-8/

Kindly leave your comments, questions and share your any input about the matter in hand in the Comment box below.  All are welcomed and you never know who it may help or inspire!

In the hope you find Love close at hand, Portia SLB

 

Until next time consider this quote to reflect upon:

“We should realize that we are not slaves of our subconsciousness. This can only be done by self discipline. There is no other way.”

Eugene Fersen, Aphorisms of The Lightbearer, page 32.

The Hidden value of humor in your spiritual practice and life

by Science of Being, posted in Keys to Happiness, Power of Emotion
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LOL! We can do funny stuff. As we age we accumulate negative energy in the subconscious through conditioning and the choices we make. We race for another day and dwell on the past. It can make our heart feel heavy, anxious and stressed. A sense of humor can be overlooked in spiritual practice, but it has real value and power. 

The value of humor 

If you laughed at the video above you probably feel more energized, happy and relaxed. Spontaneous laughter can relieve pinned up stress and negative energy from our heart and subconscious ego.

Smiling and laughter is an instinctual form of emotional communication. Babies radiate positive energy, love and acceptance when they smile or laugh. 

With a sense of humor we can keep a balanced view of life. Everything is important and nothing is important. We enjoy a sense of wonder, where everything is interesting, never boring, and even humorous. 

 A sense of humor helps protect you

When we stumble we are tempted to be embarrassed, but with a sense of humor we can throw off negative energy like carelessness and see another side of it. Comedians can make us laugh at awful things we do. Have you ever giggled at a funereal or wake?

We instinctively laugh as a defense mechanism to mentally negate the possibility of emotional damage. It’s a protection against fear growing in our imagination and thinking because we are blocking negative suggestions and energy from entering our subconscious which could take root and grow – to come back and haunt us. A sense of humor can save us a lot of emotional troubles! 

Laugh therapy

Because of increased stress at work, some corporations hire laugh therapists to help their employees release tension, relax and function better. The therapists aren’t comedians, rather they induce laughter through emotional contagion.

The energy of spontaneous laughter jumps and spreads through the Law of Attraction! You’ve probably experienced being in a room of people and someone starts to laugh, then it spreads and you laugh too without even knowing the original trigger. Contagious laughter fosters unity in groups. And, we may spontaneously laugh to trigger laughter in others!

Harmful laughter?

I do this nervous laugh when I don’t know what to say, so I stall. I initially thought I was doing it to lighten the situation up. But, it’s sort of an unconscious ‘ughhhh…’ It can be misinterpreted by others and I have gotten into trouble because of it. I’ve been practicing being conscious and considerate when I am tempted to laugh nervously, since it is based in doubt and it can hurt others.

There’s also the fake laugh and ridicule laugh. A ridicule laugh is dangerous because it can kill an idea, even something we like. People that argue or debate use ridicule laughter to gain the upper hand, to humiliate, to kill something in us.

Let’s not forget the diabolical, cruel laugh; we are communicating that something is wrong, very, very wrong.

Freeing our heart

A sense of humor is a great gift that we can develop through the practice of wonder. Being mindful we recognize that everything is in a constant state of change and this moment won’t come again. We’re not ‘stiffs,’ frozen in the drama of self-righteousness. We’re free to see all sides of the situation.

A sense of humor enriches our life. It gives us a creative, positive disposition and we become more relaxed. In a relaxed state we live a more natural, loving life. 

Of course, the entire situation in the video above could be a setup and probably was just to get a laugh. If we laugh about it we feel better, it energizes us and our heart soars!

In the hope You find Love close at hand, PortiaSLB

Did you find the video funny? Your comments, funny experiences and insights are welcomed!

Consider this quote to reflect upon:

“The material body is the instrument, the channel, through which the Soul contacts the outer world and manifests itself and is perceptible on this material plane.” 

Eugene Fersen, Science of Being

 

Emotional Seduction! The Power of Emotion to Change Your Life, Part 6

by Science of Being, posted in Power of Emotion

Emotional Seduction!

A smile is contagious! But, so are frowns, jeers and anger. We tend to mimic each others emotional expressions and synchronize to the emotional vibration too. If you are unconscious of emotional contagion your attitude can be greatly influenced by others, affecting your behavior. 

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Synchronization
Of course, everyone reacts differently to negative or positive emotions when coming in contact with the emotions of others, but synchronization can happen unconsciously as the frequency of the emotional energy in your aura changes to the same or similar to those around you, particularly if you want to be considered part of the group.

Friends and families will synchronize emotionally as their aura’s blend and reflect the same or similar energy frequency. Our emotions attract similar emotions and traits from each other through the Law of Attraction. We physically boost that synchronization unconsciously by mimicking facial expressions and body language.

But, there are times that we make a cognitive effort to feel the same emotions as those around us like when we are at social gatherings, football games, parties, etc. We consciously mimic facial expressions, body language and tone of voice. 

This is also very apparent in the workplace were you may find yourself feeling obligated to display the group emotion or attitude. Your boss and managers usually set the emotional tone since they are more emotionally contagious because of their authority.

You’ve most likely experienced this at motivational pep talks or work functions.

Emotional Contagion

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Emotional Reflection
We’ve been predominately conditioned unconsciously to emotionally synchronize from a young age. A classic example is when we smile back at someone that smiles at us, even if they are faking it. But, we can usually tell if they are faking it and are put off by it.

The great thing is that if someone genuinely smiles at us, we can not only see the difference we can feel it emotionally, lifting our spirits. We’ll most likely genuinely smile back, projecting that same loving energy from within ourselves. The love in a genuine smile draws love from within us through the Law of Attraction, while the hatred in a jeer can draw out fear from within us.

Emotions are Contagious!
Though we are strongly influenced by facial expressions and body language or by what others say, we are more seduced by the frequency of their mood – the emotional energy that radiates out and in their aura. The emotions charge thoughts with energy and they manifest physically in our facial expressions, body language and behaviors. So everything is connected and have real effects if we are conscious of them or not. The key point is to be conscious!

Emotional contagion works both ways – our emotions can influence the behaviors of others, so being conscious of our own emotions is just as important as being conscious of the emotions of others. 

More to come on the subject…

In the hope that you find Love close at hand, Portia SLB

Photo: St Petersburg, Russia 2015

In upcoming entries on emotions we will discuss ways to protect yourself from negative emotional contagion and to even benefit from positive contagion, with the help of the Great Law. Until then consider this quote to reflect upon:

“People who are inconsiderate, resent any consideration. If they remain long enough among considerate people, they will adjust themselves and become considerate.”

Eugene Fersen, Advanced Teachings in Science of Being, Volume II, page 13.