Too many of us would rather have our voice heard than listen, talking at others rather than talking with others, force-feeding our opinions and stories. It’s more about us than the other person; we’re trying to lift our own spirits rather than the other person, asking for acceptance and hoping we are worthy of love. Listening is a commanding tool of conversation. And, essential for expanding our consciousness and refining our reality.
Why listen
Sincerely listening to someone empowers the speaker and the speaker gradually unfolds, relying on the listener/s. The energy of the thoughts, emotions and behaviors in a conversation from both the speaker and listener shape the reality of the moment!
By listening we are better able to sense the quality or charge of the mental and emotional energy, if it is positive or negative, and the intent.
As we listen we can also learn about ourselves! Are we inwardly impatient, self-righteous, bored, fearful or insecure? It’s an opportunity to know the way we think and where our energy goes to form our self-image, personality and eventually our reality!
5 ways to be a better communicator
A symbiosis occurs in a two-way conversation through like attracts like. Here are 5 simple pointers to being a good listener and communicator in conversations:
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Be conscious
Be quiet and listen to the speaker and your own inner dialog. Being mindful in the moment opens you to vaster understanding and wisdom about yourself and the other person!
Your presence as a person and soul may helping the other person without saying a word. But, they may also ask for your counsel.
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Be sincere
Be yourself, no pretending. Sincerity can lead to a stronger coherence from all those involved.
Sincerity is a quality of Truth that you can consciously feel. Through this awareness you open yourself to your own consciousness and reality.
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Make eye-contact.
Your eyes are the window of your mind and soul!
You are synchronizing your own body and mind, as both listener and speaker synchronize to similar energy frequencies.
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Listen, observe, then keep what you say brief.
In the silence of listening you can objectively analyze, observe yourself, and be aware of your own frequency, intent and make any adjustments to stay true to yourself. You can spot any temptation to be insulted, aggravated, angry or other fearful emotions. If you perceive any low-frequency thoughts or behaviors then you can prevent from entering your subconscious by consciously negating them.
When you speak be honest and to the point. Ask relevant questions, gradually going deeper, getting to the heart of the matter.
This is the point of true intent to manifest and the determining factor of the overall charge of energy in the conversation and how you and others will be effected.
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Be considerate.
There may be things you don’t agree with or like in conversation, yet that is part of being free-willed individuals. The speaker is asking for love; it helps you to be conscious of that.
By being considerate and grateful in the moment, mindful of the opportunity to converse with others you open yourself to love. Love for yourself, the speaker and others. Plus, the love radiates energy in your aura and is an added protection from negative energy that may have been manifested.
But, if you are disinterested, annoyed, and impatient in a conversation you are attracting the same energy, drawing negative bioenergy from others. Plus, the Law of Cause and Effect, karma will also be a factor!
You are shaping your reality
You never know what a person takes with them from your encounter, but there will be a result from the cause started in conversation! And, by listening you are helping empower them in their reality.
Your own reality is also shaped. You created this moment for yourself. By listening you are able to silent your own mental chatter and rest in your core character. You can gain insights and inspiration about yourself and the situation of the conversation and what to do or say, if anything, about it.
Most interesting is that you can come to know that you love unconditionally and mindful of your happiness. And, that energy radiates out to touch the aura of those in the conversation first, then further. You are being a Light in the world without saying a word.
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Love is the great harmonizer, therefore listen with your heart and speak from your heart.
In the hope You find Love close at hand, PortiaSLB
Photo: Yaeorat (Chinatown), Bangkok
“Whenever then we realize that ONE-NESS with the Great Truth and stand for that Truth and live It, we have the whole of the Truth of the Universe back of us, because we are part of It, as a drop is part of the ocean.”
Eugene Fersen, Science of Being, page 35
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